Today we’re looking at the common idea that ‘everyone wants to be fashionable’.
This is a particularly challenging myth to overcome, given the prevalence of media and advertising that exist solely to make us feel bad about ourselves so we can buy more products and things and experiences.
It plays strongly into the idea that everyone else is doing something, has it all figured out or is somehow better than we are.
Here’s the truth about this from our perspective:
- Many people want to dress in a way that makes them feel good.
- All of those people have a different perspective on what feels good.
- All of those people have had the experience of changing their lives based on wearing what makes them feel good.
- Often what feels good can look good too. Feeling good and looking good aren’t mutually exclusive.
- Figuring it out is a process.
Sometimes people can fall into the trap of comparing themselves to others. While a certain amount of external awareness can be a good thing (i.e. understanding the social environment is helpful for choosing clothing that is likely to work in that environment), too much can be very detrimental to a person’s self-esteem. When we’re always on the lookout for what other people think or what other people are doing, we can get away from our own core internal perspective and find ourselves buying and wearing things that really don’t suit us and feeling bad in the end.
Here’s the thing. You are currently the most perfect version of yourself that you could be. What you like to wear is okay. If it’s not considered ‘fashionable’, that’s okay too, fashion is just what many people are currently wearing, not what you have to wear.
Your personal style says something about you. If you like it low maintenance, long lasting and understated, go for it. If you like it flamboyant, fashion forward and out there, go for it. As long as it works for you and for your world, you’re on the right track.
We’ve experienced that not everyone wants to be fashionable, but we’d love to hear from you – do you agree or disagree?